Here is article one from the ABCs of Things that Pills for ADD ADHD Cannot Do for You. Pills used in the treatment of ADD ADHD can be a tremendous help, and we have seen hundreds of lives changed for the better by using stimulant medications such as Ritalin, or natural remedies such as Attend. But in these articles we will be focusing on skills that need to be learned on purpose in addition to taking pills, in order to have more success in all areas of life. Our ABC\’s are: A – Attitude and Approach B – Breathing and Relaxation, and C – Character and Confidence There are not a lot of things in life that we have control over, but one thing that we do have control over is our attitude. Another is our approach to life, to work, or to the next task. For this article, let\’s define attitude as our state of mind as we go through the events of every day. This includes all of the experiences that we have learned from in the past, what we are doing this moment in the present, and what we are looking toward accomplishing in the future. So think clearly, and exercise self-control… St. Peter Everyone approaches the experiences of life with one of two attitudes in regards to our sense of where control comes from: either it comes from within us or it comes from outside of us. We call this our locus (location) of control. When individuals have a sense that they are in control of how they will approach each day and how they will prepare for each event, Pandora Braceletsand have a sense that they can control their view of the world and the choices that they make in life, and when they have a sense that their successes or failures are the results of their own efforts (or lack thereof), then they are in a place where they can take personal responsibility for their own choices, decisions, work effort, and to some extent even their results. People with this sense of an internal locus of control will tend to work hard and sacrifice to improve their situation and performance. However, when individuals live as if they have no control over their approach to each day, or how they will prepare for upcoming events. There are those who have the sense that they have no control over the choices that they make, or over the way that things turn out. And as a result, these are people with no reason to take responsibility for their decisions, their work effort or lack of work, or their results. These are the people who have no reason to do what it takes to improve their situation and performance. After all, in their minds their poor performance is not their fault – it is the fault of someone else. Individuals with an external locus of control tend to be less willing to work hard or to make the sacrifices necessary to change the situation because in their mindPandora Necklaces it does not matter how hard they try – everything is out of their control. These individuals also tend to be more stressed in life, and perhaps even more depressed. I have worked with dozens of pitchers at all age levels through the years. I like to tell them that there are few things that they can have control over when they are out there pitching. They can control what they do with their bodies (their mechanics, their release points and arm angles, etc.). They can control their thinking and their attitude toward the next pitch that they will throw. But both they and I know that once they release the ball, they really cannot control the results of what will happen to the pitch they have just thrown. The results are literally out of their hands. Though they are pushed to practice hard to seek perfection on every pitch that they throw, they simply have no control over umpirePandora Beads Charmss, batters, or fielders. However, I tell them that they are expected to take responsibility for the results, even though they have no control over what happens after they make the pitch. Why? Because without taking responsibility for the results, a pitcher will just blame the umpire, the fielder, or the baseball gods, for anything that goes wrong. And if he does this, then there is little motivation to come to practice the next day to improve his personal ability and performance. One must take personal responsibility in order to give the effort and make the sacrifice necessary to improve performance in any endeavor. If someone or something else is the cause of our bad results, then there is no motivation to do the work, or make the necessary sacrifices, to improve performance and probably the results. For a child with ADD ADHD this means that blaming the teacher, or the test, or the weather for poor performance in school is not as good of a strategy or attitude as taking personal responsibility for the poor performance. If the problem lies outside of us, then there is no reason to improve. But if we take responsibility and say that the problem is within us, then the best way to change thing and improve the situation is to improve us. This is done by taking the time and by making the necessary sacrifices to improve our skills, knowledge, or performance. For an adult with ADD ADHD this means that blaming the boss, the co-worker, or the spouse for poor performance at work or at home, is not as good of a strategy or attitude as taking responsibility for the poor performance. If the problem lies outside of us, then there is no reason to improve. If the problem is within us, then the answer is to improve both ourselves and our situation through making the necessary sacrifices to improve our skills, knowledge, performance or even relationships. How do we change a bad attitude into a good attitude? First, you have to be honest with yourself and admit that your current mind set gives up too much control to forces, or people, or things that are totally outside of yourself. Then begin to take greater personal responsibility for your approach to each day and to your performance each day. Take the time to consider why it has seePandora Chainsmed like a good idPandora Gold Beads Charmsea in the past to blame something outside of yourself for your own lack of preparation for each day, or your own poor performance. Take a moment to just experience what it feels like to take personal responsibility for your own life and performance. Become excited about learning new skills, new information, and developing new attitudes. Begin to dedicate yourself to improving your existing skills, knowledge base, and attitudes. Begin to get more excited about your potential to take life to the next level. Open you eyes and heart to notice others more. Listen to others. Learn from others. Try to understand other opinions or points of view. Learn to be more compassionate and empathetic. Even become more generous toward others. Myth: Practice make perfect. Truth: Only perfect practice makes perfect. Sloppy practice, or practicing the wrong thing, just leads to sloppy performance or mistakPandora Silver Beads Charmses. Another important truth in either coaching or counseling is that when people or players are under pressure they will do the things that they have practiced the most. Here is one of my favorite sayings: If what you are doing works for you, then do not change it. But if it does not work, then you must do something different. So let me encourage you to take personal responsibility for your preparation and approach to each day. If it is less than excellent, then make the changes needed to make your preparation and approach excellent. If it is less than what is needed to be successful, then make the changes that you need to be successful. Plan ahead for the next day. Eat a proper diet today, and plan for good foods tomorrow. Get plenty of sleep tonight. Exercise or play outside a little bit each day. Work the very hardest that you can on the work that you have to do for the next twenty minutes. Take personal responsibility for your choices and actions each day. If it is less than excellent, then work to improve your performance each day until it becomes excellent. Focus for the next twenty minutes on the most important thing that you have to do, and do it well. Then repSilver & Gold Beads Charmseat. Your Approach to each day, and to preparing for tomorrow, are both completely under your control. Your Attitude for the next twenty minutes is also completely under your control. Both maturity and a greater sense of freedom will come when you realize that you have complete control over your attitude and approach to life. Don\’t give it away to others.
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